Blog Day 11: The Forms

 Dear Lord,

    As we go on by our days let us never forget the power of you that lives within us. Bless us as we heal our hearts from grief in any form that may show up for us. Allow us to cleanse our souls and purify our minds from any harm that has been done in our past or our present so we can properly prepare for our fruitful future. We are open to receiving all that is for us and will remain consistent in the growth that will bring us closer to you.

        ~In Jesus Name, Amen

    As we embark on the 11th day of "Testimonies and Transformations", I'd like to acknowledge the elephant in the room. I know there are many people who have experienced what I endured losing my daughter, but I also have been in other forms of grief as well while dealing with this one in particular. I wanted to just spread awareness for these specific ones and will leave the source links to my research on this topic of the forms of grief.

    So for starters lets speak on the subject of grief in the form of worldly situations. In these cases it is called Ecological grief which is a form of grief that causes the mind to feel worried for the future outcome of things like climate change, environmental destruction or being a witness to constant news flashes of worldly issues (aka Collective grief). Most of this can be caused by anxiety & numbness which I can 100% inner stand as this has been a current thing we as Americans have to deal with. I wouldn't go too far into the political world, but this does have a huge part in the effect of our mental health being toyed with for so long on this subject. Not a lot of people realize it, but in truth I feel like there are a lot of ways that the government can control the minds of the people here in America by creating fear based tactics to keep us in this state of mind. An example of this for instance with TikTok being banned it took a toll on a huge amount of people not even in America alone, but others who use it in other countries as well were probably affected.  As you see, they can take from us but also bring things back in the nick of time as you know that TikTok has a lot of algorithms around worldly things to keep us in alignment. Some coping mechanisms that can help consist of speaking to those like minded individuals you can trust or non-verbal acts like writing in a journal can help relieve a lot of the internal turmoil with from this form of grief. You can also attend gatherings to get involved with the movement acts locally to support those in need.

    Another form of grief I'd like to speak on is Disenfranchised grief. This is a form of grief that happens after a loss of a loved one who is not being remembered or valued properly by those around. The loss doesn't always have to be on a physical scale in these cases, but people can embark on loss of a relationship not being as valuable to the other person as it is to you too. For this form many have experienced ( including myself) the feeling of having someone not know about a grief experience or loss in that sense where you want others to acknowledge the impact that person has on your life. In a way it's like there is that voice in our minds that seeks the validation of the presences of these important people or things to us that we have cherished for long periods of lifetimes. I know that this was hard on my end when I didn't really publicly put out there that I was pregnant with my daughter until she passed away. Many people were shocked about it and didn't know how to approach me ( as I've said before in previous blogs) when finding out about my sweet girl's transitioning on. The realizations I attained that helped me cope with this was being more open about my testimony, but first finding the words to express my feelings. Also support groups, medication(If needed) , and grief therapy/ art therapy has helped me tremendously with letting my hands do the talking and also hearing others' stories made me feel less alone in wanting acknowledgement. 

    For now I will stop at these two because there is a lot  to unpack all in one passage and you guys will be reading this one forever if I put everything in here at once lol. I will make a part 2 on this subject for a more deep dive of what other forms of grief there are. I want all my readers who find me to feel seen in all ways. I made this blog in order to tell my story yes, but I also like to bring forth topics not a lot of people are speaking on in this day in age. It's time to shine light on all things as we continue to evolve ourselves in such a closeted world; I hope I helped someone a bit with this one today, but for now I'll see y'all tomorrow!

            ~Indigo Vibration<3 1111

Sources Are Below:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK591827/

https://ucalgary.ca/news/eco-grief-how-cope-emotional-impacts-climate-change